Ways To Support Your Child Through Grief
“When a family is grieving, children often notice more than we realise. They sense changes in routines, emotions – even in silence. Parents naturally want to protect them, but what children need most is honesty, reassurance, and to feel included. These are some of the ways I encourage parents to support their children through loss – especially at Christmas, when the absence of a loved one can feel even sharper” – Carla Ambrose, Family Support Worker at ellenor.
Ways to Support Your Child Through Grief
Christmas after losing a loved one can feel overwhelming. These simple steps, shared by Carla, can help children feel safer and more supported as they grieve:
- Be honest with your child
Children notice change. Simple, truthful words help them feel secure.
- Talk to their school
Let teachers know what’s happened and agree a gentle, phased return when the time is right.
- Give your child a say
Ask how they’d like to remember their loved one — a card, a favourite film, baking their person’s favourite cake, or keeping things quiet.
- Keep routines steady
Mealtimes, bedtimes, and check-ins give children the consistency they need.
- Make Christmas your own
There’s no “right” way to mark the season after loss. Do what feels right for your family.
- Allow space for joy
Grief and laughter can sit side by side. Smiles, presents, and fun are still okay.
However you spend Christmas, remember: You and your child do not have to face grief alone. ellenor is here to help.
ellenor provides hospice and wellbeing support for families across Kent and Bexley.
To learn more or support their work, visit Wellbeing and Therapeutic Services
